Tabatha Deans

Bringing Integrity to the Written Word

Arguing with a 3.5 year old

The conversation started several months ago. I don’t know how or why, but Petra was trying to pin me down about when I would die.

“You’ll die Grammy.” She sobbed.

“Oh honey, no I won’t.” I tried to console her.

“Yes you will. When? When will you die Grammy?”

“Okay, not until I”m 100 years old.” I thought that would make her feel better. I was wrong. She immediately used it against me.

“See, you will die!”

“Want a treat Petra?” Conversation ended. I have avoided her repeated attempts to resurrect the narrative, and was successful until last week. She had come for a sleepover and we were outside when she brought it up again.

“But Grammy, everybody dies.” She said matter of factly. I turned her attention to the pictures we had recently hung in the basement hallway. She loved to see pictures of her as a baby and I knew it would change the subject.

We looked at the pictures and she was adorable as she “oohed” and “Ooowwed” over them. We came upon one with my grandmother holding her, while Jessica watched on.

“Who’s that Grammy?” She asked, knowing full well she was the baby in the picture.

“Oh, that’s my grandma. You met her when you were just a tiny baby.”

“Awww.” She was touched. “Is she dead? She’s dead isn’t she?”

Doh! She had me. We finally had the discussion, and although Petra is still not happy to know that we are all going to die, she has decided to deal with it by rationalizing that only old people die.

“I’m too young to die…” is her new mantra.

September 12, 2017 - Posted by | Uncategorized


  1. Always I love reading your writing..I started writing again, some of my poems are coming so quick..I will send them to you, and see what you I can’t figure out the ending I have two..the second, part isn’t finished yet..God and Satin are fighting over me..but I will tell you about the experience one day and why the poem..It’s all ending very good tho…take care sweet is your sister doing?Never forget her coming with you to Camp Wapiti..Heidi Williams


    Comment by Heidi Williams | September 16, 2017 | Reply

    • Heidi, I’m so glad to hear you’re still feeding your writer’s soul. I would love to read some of your work. Camp Wapiti seems like such a long time ago, but I remember it often and fondly. Keep up the writing.

      Comment by tabdeans | September 16, 2017 | Reply

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